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Chinese Version. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as Chinese Version. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as from business challenges.


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Chinese Version. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as Chinese Version. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. Stephen Covey, an internationally respected leadership authority, realizes that true success encompasses a balance of personal and professional effectiveness, so this book is a manual for performing better in both arenas. His anecdotes are as frequently from family situations as from business challenges.

30 review for The 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People (Simplified Chinese Version)

  1. 4 out of 5

    Stephen

    I would like to make clear that David Hasselhoff's appearance in this review should in no way be deemed to imply that I endorse or support his career in any way whatsoever.Thank you for your understanding. FIVE "PRACTICAL" HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE First, a few comments on the seven so-called “habits” identified in the book, namely: 1.Be proactive, 2.Begin with the End in Mind, 3. Put First Things First, 4. Think Win-Win, 5. Seek First to Understand, then to be understood, 6. Synergize I would like to make clear that David Hasselhoff's appearance in this review should in no way be deemed to imply that I endorse or support his career in any way whatsoever.Thank you for your understanding. FIVE "PRACTICAL" HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE First, a few comments on the seven so-called “habits” identified in the book, namely: 1.Be proactive, 2.Begin with the End in Mind, 3. Put First Things First, 4. Think Win-Win, 5. Seek First to Understand, then to be understood, 6. Synergize, and 7. Sharpen the Saw In a word…..crap!! In several words, what a giant, steaming pile of new-age, masturbatory, corp-lingo, platitude spewing bullshit. Think Win-Win…are you kidding me with this Jim Jones Kool-aid party chant? Synergize….just hearing that word makes me throw up in my mouth. Sharpen the saw….exactly…reading that phrase makes me literally want to sharpen the saw and slice a hate filled path through the contents of this book. This book is like a giant fortune cookie full of sounds good but says nothing. My advice: rather than read this book, go get a six pack or a bottle of wine, grab some China Mieville or Dan Simmons and find a nice comfy tree to sit under while you read something that might actually expand your mind. Now I certainly don't have any foolproof answers or magic exercises that will help you bring out the "inner-winner" inside you. However, I did come up five pracical (and hopefully a little humorous) habits that have proven to be pretty effective at making people successful in their chosen field (tongue planted firmly in cheek). 1. EMBRACE TECHNOLOGY AND MEDICAL SCIENCE TO BECOME THE BEST YOU CAN BE 2. BE BOLD, BE DARING AND DELIVER TO THE MARKETPLACE THE NEXT BIG THING 3. DON’T BE AFRAID TO USE THE FORCE TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOAL 4. GET IN GOOD WITH THE GERMANS 5. BE RUTHLESS PROACTIVE IN DEALING WITH THE COMPETITION THE END.....

  2. 3 out of 5

    Chad Warner

    This book explains 7 principles that make a person more effective personally and professionally. Covey shows how a principle-centered, character-based life helps you build the healthy relationships that are key to an effective life. This classic is well worth reading for its perspective and practical advice. Concepts Correct Principles: Covey frequently references his Christianity. He says the Habits are based on "Correct Principles" (aka Natural Law) found in Judeo-Christian scriptures and common This book explains 7 principles that make a person more effective personally and professionally. Covey shows how a principle-centered, character-based life helps you build the healthy relationships that are key to an effective life. This classic is well worth reading for its perspective and practical advice. Concepts Correct Principles: Covey frequently references his Christianity. He says the Habits are based on "Correct Principles" (aka Natural Law) found in Judeo-Christian scriptures and common to major religions. P/PC Balance: Covey says you must maintain a balance between production (P; your output) and production capability (PC; your ability to produce). You must stay healthy and renew yourself (see Habit 7) or you'll get burned out and become ineffective. He uses the fable of the Goose and the Golden Egg as a metaphor. Interdependence: Covey says the Habits lead you from dependence to independence to interdependence (cooperating with others to achieve a common goal; producing things greater than the sum of their parts). The 7 Habits Habit 1: Be Proactive You choose how to respond to what life throws at you. Between stimulus and response lies your freedom to choose. Take responsibility for your actions. Habit 2: Begin with the End in Mind Choose your short-term, daily behavior according to the plan you have for your entire life. Think about the legacy you want to leave. Put things in perspective; what would you want people to say at your funeral? Habit 3: Put First Things First Daily planning is too narrow and short-sighted. Weekly planning gives a better big-picture perspective of your goals, and allows for the flexibility to deal with the things that will inevitably come up. People are more important than things, so plan your time accordingly. Be efficient with things, but effective with people. You can't be efficient with relationships; they take time. Instead of focusing on things and time, focus on relationships and results. Only spend time on things that align with your deep values. Don't waste time on other things, even if it means saying no to requests. Don't prioritize your schedule; schedule your priorities. Think of tasks in terms of urgency and importance. Focus on the important, even though they seem less urgent. Think preventatively to keep tasks from ever becoming urgent. Use stewardship delegation instead of "gofer" delegation; teach a person to be the steward of the task you assign to them, rather than constantly telling them to "go for this" or "go for that". Habit 4: Think Win/Win Most of life requires cooperation, not competition. Work together with co-workers, friends, and family for mutual benefit. Approach everything in terms of "win/win or no deal"; if you can't reach a deal in which both parties feel they're winning, don't make a deal at all. Create win/win agreements that clearly state expectations, privileges, consequences up front. This prevents you from having to figure those things out when issues arise, and makes the relationship more smooth because it causes each person to manage themselves. Think in terms of the Abundance Mentality rather than the Scarcity Mentality; The quest for recognition, credit, power, and profit isn't a zero-sum game. Be happy when others succeed. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood Listen with the intent to understand, not to reply. Diagnose before you prescribe. Understand needs, concerns, situation before you give advice. To understand others, listen with empathy. To be understood, present your views according to: ethos: personal credibility pathos: emotional alignment with the other person logos: logical reasoning You can't motivate people by appealing to satisfied needs (money, status, etc.); only unsatisfied needs motivate. Habit 6: Synergize. Value the differences in relationships. Oneness is not sameness, it's complementariness. Unity is not uniformity. Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw Renew and improve in yourself in the following categories, by spending at least an hour each day. • Physical: Eat right and exercise. • Spiritual: Find and carry an inner peace. Meditate, read scripture, or spend time in nature. • Mental: Read good literature to gain the insights of others. Write, organize, and plan. • Social/emotional: Understand others. Serve others, at work or through volunteering. Afterward Covey says a summary of the first 3 Habits is "make and keep a promise," and a summary of the next 3 Habits is "involve others in the problem and work out the solution together." He says the first 3 Habits are about integrity, and the next 3 are about loyalty.

  3. 5 out of 5

    Virginia

    Ever since I worked at the bookstore at Virginia Tech, I would watch the douchebag* business major undergrads buy this book for their classes and look down upon them, and the book by association, as, well, douchebags. *This is not to say that all undergrad business majors are douchebags. I've met one really really awesome one. Additionally, after working at a major university bookstore, a majority of all undergrad students can be fairly classified as douchebags. Jebus. Consequently, I never picked Ever since I worked at the bookstore at Virginia Tech, I would watch the douchebag* business major undergrads buy this book for their classes and look down upon them, and the book by association, as, well, douchebags. *This is not to say that all undergrad business majors are douchebags. I've met one really really awesome one. Additionally, after working at a major university bookstore, a majority of all undergrad students can be fairly classified as douchebags. Jebus. Consequently, I never picked up this book. I hated the people who were reading it for class. I hated the people who were assigning it for their classes. I hated my job and I hated the area that I was living in. (I was, yes indeedy, a hater) Obviously it wasn't the right time for me to read it. My current boss (who is only occasionally a douchebag) is doing this huge self-help/life plan program, and from it, there is a major reading list. As I am a wee bit addicted to books, I immediately agreed, and when I started searching on Amazon for the reading list, "7 Habits" appeared on pretty much every single page. So I picked that one up too. Excellent decision. I chose to read it first. It has taken me, probably three weeks to read it. I have ordered (with my boss' blessing) "The 8th Habit" and will read that shortly. Every single page I found something that made me put the book down for a couple of minutes and think about it. I already know that I'm going to have to re-read this at some point in the near future. I would say this is required reading for humanity, but my father would have been the exception to that rule. Basically, this book will teach you about effective ways to be a compassionate, kind, enjoyable human being. It will teach you about personal responsibility (personal as in to your self, and to others). It will teach you how to be a better parent, employee, spouse, daughter, or boss. I can't give it enough praise. It is a truly outstanding book.

  4. 5 out of 5

    Malbadeen

    I think the sign of a great book is when, right inside the cover there is a pull out brochure that encourages you to order more of the authors products - that's some quality shit when you see that. But the book itself, well it has charts: flow charts, boxed charts, circle charts, up and down charts, sideways charts, charts with arrows, charts with triangles and charts with dotted lines. This book uses words like "synergy" and "proactive"....repeatedly This book has "application suggestions". This I think the sign of a great book is when, right inside the cover there is a pull out brochure that encourages you to order more of the authors products - that's some quality shit when you see that. But the book itself, well it has charts: flow charts, boxed charts, circle charts, up and down charts, sideways charts, charts with arrows, charts with triangles and charts with dotted lines. This book uses words like "synergy" and "proactive"....repeatedly This book has "application suggestions". This book is shiny and it has 6 pages of recommendations before the title page. This book makes me want to barf - A LOT! so much so, that I could even stop watching what I eat because I'd be barfing up all the calories anyway. I could eat and eat and eat and barf and barf and barf and it wouldn't be a disorder because it would all happen naturally - no effort on my part, just read and barf, read and barf - like that. This book is my assigned reading for tonight, this review received more of my attention than the assigned reading will.

  5. 3 out of 5

    Manny

    - Hon, did you sleep okay? You look kinda weird. - Well, I don't know how to say this... - Yes? - I had this dream where I talked with God. - Was She black? - No, I'm serious! I did! It was, like, utterly real. It was the most real thing that's ever happened to me. The rest of this review is available elsewhere (the location cannot be given for Goodreads policy reasons)

  6. 3 out of 5

    MJ Nicholls

    One of the most-highlighted books on Kindle, proving that human beings thrive on snappy buzz-quotes written by middle managers like David Brent who partake of the music of M People and Steely Dan Kool & The Gang, and whose souls were long ago vacuumed out in a boardroom somewhere during a PowerPoint presentation. Regard: What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say. This incoherent drivel has the most highlights. Regard the faux-profound self-importance of the “cannot” One of the most-highlighted books on Kindle, proving that human beings thrive on snappy buzz-quotes written by middle managers like David Brent who partake of the music of M People and Steely Dan Kool & The Gang, and whose souls were long ago vacuumed out in a boardroom somewhere during a PowerPoint presentation. Regard: What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say. This incoherent drivel has the most highlights. Regard the faux-profound self-importance of the “cannot” in this sentence, as though securing the attention of Jim Phelps CEO of E-Z-Clix Online Supplies is the pinnacle of human achievement. Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose. You can say this imbecilic utterance in any accent, or at any speed you like, and it still would be a piece of drivelling cack. It would still linger on the brain for a second as a semi-intelligent observation, before pooling slowly to the floor like the incoherent dog-drool it really is when given two seconds thought. Management is doing things right; leadership is doing the right things. Die now. Die now, you patronising ill-bred country-club smug-face slab of nothing. See how that semicolon WINKS at you, as if to say: “Just listen to my me and everything will be all right. Just quote this vacuous frog-plop at the next AGM and sit back as the room erupts into spontaneous applause. Told you so!” The ability to subordinate an impulse to a value is the essence of the proactive person. Reactive people are driven by feelings, by circumstances, by conditions, by their environment. Proactive people are driven by values—carefully thought about, selected and internalized values. Translation: proactive people are greedy loveless cash-licking pus-heads. It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us. Are you sure it’s not our response to our response to what happens to us that hurts us? Or our response to our response to our response to what happens to us that hurts us is what hurts us and us and us and them? Effectiveness lies in the balance—what I call the P/PC Balance. P stands for production of desired results, the golden eggs. PC stands for production capability, the ability or asset that produces the golden eggs. P = how many eggs stakeholders want chickens to shit out, vs. PC = how many eggs the chickens are capable of shitting out if kept in airless cages and fed reheated bull droppings. “Squeeze ‘em harder, Mr Pancks!” The PC principle is to always treat your employees exactly as you want them to treat your best customers. Condescending fake-friendliness masking resentment and loathing. For our purposes, we will define a habit as the intersection of knowledge, skill, and desire. Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Skill is the how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three. OH MOMMY MAKE IT STOP!

  7. 5 out of 5

    Jan-Maat

    This was recommended reading following on from a course and I found it to be an odd mix of the homely and the disturbing. On the whole it's probably the dogmatic air of absolute certainty that I find disturbing, that and the way he describes how he reduced his son to tears over keeping the garden in good order. Reading this book is rather like having a very one-sided conversation with a particularly earnest and opinionated drunk who isn't shy to jab you in the chest with a fore-finger to underlin This was recommended reading following on from a course and I found it to be an odd mix of the homely and the disturbing. On the whole it's probably the dogmatic air of absolute certainty that I find disturbing, that and the way he describes how he reduced his son to tears over keeping the garden in good order. Reading this book is rather like having a very one-sided conversation with a particularly earnest and opinionated drunk who isn't shy to jab you in the chest with a fore-finger to underline a point. That's not to say that the seven habits are bad, far from it. They are a quite reasonable and potentially useful set of habits. Whether effective people tend to have these habits or if having these habits will make you more effective is presumed but not proven by this book which is heavily anecdotal, but that is neither here nor there. The power of the argument and the vast number of sales lies in how the seven habits tap into our moral beliefs about the kind of habits we want to be able to have to make us successful, and more to the point the kind of habits that we want to believe make people successful, and in the great tradition of self help books it asserts the primacy of the individual will over any and all other circumstances. No war, want, injustice, disease, political, economic or social structure can hinder the truly just man girt by the seven habits. Business in this account is a battlefield in the moral universe, the victor, a sage at least if not a saint. Be proactive, begin with the end in mind, put first things first, think win/win, seek first to understand and then to be understood, synergise and sharpen the saw are the seven habits. That's the meat of the book in one sentence. I wonder if all of Covey's seven habits could be cribbed out of Weber's The Protestant Ethic and the Spirit of Capitalism? But equally perhaps we should remember that seven is a magic number, this really isn't a business book, it is a spiritual book. The seven habits are to stand firm against the seven deadly sins. Life on Earth for Covey is a probationary period for the life ever after, since Covey was a Mormon being true to his faith was due to be rewarded with stewardship of an entire planet. Clearly one needs to demonstrate effective stewardship over the smaller business of mortal life to be judged ready for such a substantial reward. In turn this was another disturbing element to the book for me because this means that everything becomes functional. Having a picnic with your sweetheart isn't about enjoying life it is an important Quadrant II activity! This is a mechanistic view of the human experience and, sadder yet, a harsh one. The path to life everlasting is a narrow one, beset with dangers while storms around do rage. Fear not, lonely pilgrim, for Covey illuminates the way with quadrants and diagrams. Yet there is optimism in his approach. Understanding triumphs eternally. Despite what he repeats about paradigm shifts he believes that everybody can come to see both alternative paradigms and appreciate their validity. Personally I suspect that every reader will be able to think of occasions when opposite points of view are not reconcilable. Honesty and realism has to temper any reading of this book. Maybe my problem with this book is that everything is spelt out. It's a Sunday sermon and the pastor is going to read out every word and isn't going to be hurried on to his inevitable conclusions. Worth reading for a taste of the horror and the glory of late twentieth- early twenty-first century corporate life - but keep some salt handy.

  8. 4 out of 5

    Pouting Always

    An okay book if you don't know how to manage your life it's probably really helpful but if you've thought about how to make yourself more productive or effective a lot of it's intuitive. Also like a lot of these books can only tell you things you have to make the changes yourself which is always the hard part so. This one was better written than most which I appreciate.

  9. 4 out of 5

    Manuel Antão

    If you're into stuff like this, you can read the full review. Own Rituals: “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey (original review, 2004) "To learn and not to do is really not to learn. To know and not to do is really not to know." "Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her." "At some time in your life, you probably had someone believe in you when you didn't If you're into stuff like this, you can read the full review. Own Rituals: “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey (original review, 2004) "To learn and not to do is really not to learn. To know and not to do is really not to know." "Love is a verb. Love – the feeling – is the fruit of love the verb or our loving actions. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her." "At some time in your life, you probably had someone believe in you when you didn't believe in yourself." In “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey The above-mentioned quotes are some of the pearls of wisdom we can find in the book. There's a story, probably apocryphal, about an Amazonian tribe's reaction to a group of Westerners (possibly miners or farmers or similar) who had created a settlement close to their village some time in the 1960s.

  10. 5 out of 5

    Ahmad Sharabiani

    The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey عنوانها: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ هفت گام به سوی کامیابی؛ تاملات روزانه؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ تاریخ نخستین خوانش: بیستم ماه جولای سال 1997 میلادی عنوان: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ مترجم: گیتی خوشدل؛ تهران، نشر البرز، 1375؛ در 189 ص؛ مصور، نمودار؛ شابک: 9644420160؛ چاپ دوم 1376؛ چاپ دیگر: تهران، پیکان؛ چاپ هشتم 1380؛ چاپ نهم 1381؛ چاپ پانزدهم 1384؛ در 189 ص؛ شابک: 9643280829؛ چاپ بیست و هشتم 1392؛ چاپ سی و دوم 1395؛ مو The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen R. Covey عنوانها: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ هفت گام به سوی کامیابی؛ تاملات روزانه؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ تاریخ نخستین خوانش: بیستم ماه جولای سال 1997 میلادی عنوان: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ مترجم: گیتی خوشدل؛ تهران، نشر البرز، 1375؛ در 189 ص؛ مصور، نمودار؛ شابک: 9644420160؛ چاپ دوم 1376؛ چاپ دیگر: تهران، پیکان؛ چاپ هشتم 1380؛ چاپ نهم 1381؛ چاپ پانزدهم 1384؛ در 189 ص؛ شابک: 9643280829؛ چاپ بیست و هشتم 1392؛ چاپ سی و دوم 1395؛ موضوع: موفقیت - خودسازی - جنبه های روانشناسی و خلق و خوی مردمان تاثیر گذار؛ قرن 20 م عنوان: هفت عادت مردمان موثر؛ نویسنده: استیون آر. کاوی؛ مترجم: محمدرضا آل یاسین؛ تهران، هامون، 1376؛ در 348 ص؛ مصور، نمودار؛ شابک: 9649146687؛ چاپ دوم 1377؛ چاپ سوم 1378؛ چاپ هشتم 1383؛ چاپ یازدهم 1384؛ چاپ سیزدهم 1385؛ چاپ بیست و دوم 1393؛ موضوع: درسهایی برای دگرگونی خویشتن؛ قرن 20 م عنوان: هفت گام به سوی کامیابی؛ تهران، نشر نی، 1376، در 416 ص، شابک: 9643122743؛ مترجمها: محسن اشرفی؛ مهدی الوانی؛ معصومه پیروز بخت؛ عنوان: تاملات روزانه؛ مترجم: حسن اکبریان طبری؛ تهران، مهرنوش، 1379؛ در 137 ص؛ شابک: 9649133135؛ این کتاب ادامه دارد عنوان ادامه کتاب عادت هشتم است؛ ا. شربیانی

  11. 5 out of 5

    Kay

    easy to read :) but hard to do :D hahahah

  12. 5 out of 5

    Salma Fathey

    "العادات السبع" أحد أشهر كتابين في إدارة الأعمال، وثانيهما هو "دع القلق وأبدأ الحياة" لدايل كارنيجي. يبدأ كوفي حديثه بالتأكيد على أنه لا يخترع العجلة من البداية؛ كما أنه لم يخترع العادات السبع التي يذكرها في كتابه، لكنه فقط يضعها في منظومة وبترتيب حتى يسهل استخدامها. يؤكد كوفي على أهمية التغيير الداخلي للفرد، لأن الإنسان لن يتغير إلا إذا أراد هو ذلك، كما يؤكد على المفاهيم الدينية والأخلاقية للإنسان في العمل والحياة. أصبت بالاستغراب نوعا ما نظرا لاهتمامه بالعنصر الديني المسيحي اليهودي، إذ يشتهر مع "العادات السبع" أحد أشهر كتابين في إدارة الأعمال، وثانيهما هو "دع القلق وأبدأ الحياة" لدايل كارنيجي. يبدأ كوفي حديثه بالتأكيد على أنه لا يخترع العجلة من البداية؛ كما أنه لم يخترع العادات السبع التي يذكرها في كتابه، لكنه فقط يضعها في منظومة وبترتيب حتى يسهل استخدامها. يؤكد كوفي على أهمية التغيير الداخلي للفرد، لأن الإنسان لن يتغير إلا إذا أراد هو ذلك، كما يؤكد على المفاهيم الدينية والأخلاقية للإنسان في العمل والحياة. أصبت بالاستغراب نوعا ما نظرا لاهتمامه بالعنصر الديني المسيحي اليهودي، إذ يشتهر معظم أساطين العلم في الخارج بميلهم للإلحاد. يذكر كوفي كثيرا ما كتبه فرانكل، وهو من أهم الأطباء النفسيين اليهود، عن محارق النازية وكيف تغلب على تأثيراتها بالإيحاء حتى تحولت إلى نظرية في أهمية نظريات فرويد نفسه – اليهودي أيضا – ويُحكى أن هتلر كان يمنع مزاولة الطب النفسي حيث أن مؤسسي نظرياته من اليهود. يتحدث كوفي أيضا عن الرئيس السادات في أكثر من موقع في كتابه؛ وخاصة فيما يتعلق بتغيير نظرته للأمور كما حدث في معاهدة السلام بين مصر وإسرائيل، كما يدعو القراء للإطلاع على مذكراته "البحث عن الذات". أهم ما يميز الكتاب ذكره لأمثلة في الحياة الأسرية والعمل لتطبيق كل عادة، وهو ما يبسط بشكل عملي العادات. وجدت الكتاب في بعض المواضع ممل إلى حد ما لكنه في المجمل مفيد ويتميز بالترتيب والأشكال والرسومات التوضيحية الجيدة. كانت أكثر العادات التي أثارت اهتمامي: العادة الثالثة "أبدأ بالأهم ثم المهم" حيث يوضح الكتاب أهمية القيام بالمهام الهامة أكثر من الضرورية، ويضع جدولا أسبوعيا يساعد في تنظيم الأعمال مع الاحتفاظ بهامش للمرونة. والعادة الخامسة "اسع من أجل الفهم أولا ثم أسع من أجل أن يفهمك الآخرون"، وهي إحدى المشاكل التي تواجهني شخصيا حيث أهتم خلال الحديث مع أي شخص آخر بتحضير الرد مسبقا مما يسبب بعض المشكلات في فهم مقصده، وهنا أيضا يوضح لنا أهمية تلك المهارة في الحديث بين الأهل والأبناء حيث يهتم الأهل بسرد تجاربهم الشخصية دون الالتفات لحاجات الأبناء والاستماع لحديثهم وفهم رغباتهم أولا. تشمل العادات السبع النقاط التالية: النصر الشخصي: 1. كن مبادرا. 2. أبدأ والغاية في ذهنك 3. ابدأ بالأهم قبل المهم النصر العام 4. تفكير المكسب/ المكسب 5. اسع من أجل الفهم أولا ثم أسع من أجل أن يفهمك الآخرون 6. التكاتف التجديد 7. اشحذ المنشار. الكتاب في مجمله قيم ومهم، وهو في حوالي 400 صفحة من القطع المتوسط، صادر عن مكتبة جرير.

  13. 3 out of 5

    Nora

    I read only the first twenty pages of this book, and that was enough to make me want to gouge out my own eyeballs. It is so repetitive and the author just gives all these ridiculous, impossible analogies that you're supposed to relate to or learn something from. He goes on for pages about himself and his job and his wife and kids. Totally unnecessary. It really is all just common sense stuff that you already know, but preached at you over the course of pages and pages of utter nonsense. For exam I read only the first twenty pages of this book, and that was enough to make me want to gouge out my own eyeballs. It is so repetitive and the author just gives all these ridiculous, impossible analogies that you're supposed to relate to or learn something from. He goes on for pages about himself and his job and his wife and kids. Totally unnecessary. It really is all just common sense stuff that you already know, but preached at you over the course of pages and pages of utter nonsense. For example, Covey writes that if you're not nice to your coworkers, you won't get far in your career. [image error] I know. Groundbreaking stuff, right? If you want to learn more, Mr. Covey has written you about 70 pages on the subject, so you're good to go. Believe me when I tell you that this book will most certainly NOT change your life in any way, shape, or form. I liken this author to that one uncle that will tell you his entire life story at every reunion, regardless of whether or not you're interested in hearing it. I should probably stop myself before steam starts coming out of my ears. I only have one thing to say to you, book.

  14. 5 out of 5

    Michael Finocchiaro

    I found this book a bit condescending and with too much of a religious feel to it. It also felt a little insincere and manipulative. I remember that everyone was reading it and swearing by it and that the author must have made millions on seminars and the like, but I found it too close to a cultish mentality and was unsurprised when several adepts of the book later tried dragging me in to pyramid schemes like Amway. Empty platitudes are not really incredibly useful. Read GTD instead!

  15. 3 out of 5

    Stacey

    Oh my Gawd, how much did I hate this one. We had to read this the summer before a freshman college Intro to Business Class - perhaps I read it at the wrong age? When Steven Covey starts talking about his kid mowing the lawn and the motivation behind it...ugh! Needless to say, I only got through about 2 of the 7 habits - I guess I'm not a highly effective person. And I will not be purchasing any of Mr Covey's time management calendar systems either, thank you very much.

  16. 3 out of 5

    Wafaa Khaled

    قويم ، و قوي . قام على ثلاث أسس / نفسك - الآخرين - التجدد : كن فعالاً - ابدأ بالنهاية - ضع الأهم أولاً / النجاح للجميع - افهم أولاً - التناغم / التجدد . 1. كن فعالاً : أنتَ تتحكم بحياتك ، و أنتَ الظروف لا الظروف هي أنت . فلا يجبُ أبداً أن ترى نفسك خلال محيطك بل يجب أن تبحث عن نفسك ، كيف هي من دون هذا المحيط ، و كيف ستكون لو كان المحيطُ مختلف ؟ قم بتوسيع الدائرة من حولك لتتعرف على نفسك . اقطع وعوداً صغيرة لأصدقائك في البداية و حاول أن تلتزم بها ، لتعتاد على صغيرها و توفي بكبيرها . حوّل تساؤلك : لماذا حد قويم ، و قوي . قام على ثلاث أسس / نفسك - الآخرين - التجدد : كن فعالاً - ابدأ بالنهاية - ضع الأهم أولاً / النجاح للجميع - افهم أولاً - التناغم / التجدد . 1. كن فعالاً : أنتَ تتحكم بحياتك ، و أنتَ الظروف لا الظروف هي أنت . فلا يجبُ أبداً أن ترى نفسك خلال محيطك بل يجب أن تبحث عن نفسك ، كيف هي من دون هذا المحيط ، و كيف ستكون لو كان المحيطُ مختلف ؟ قم بتوسيع الدائرة من حولك لتتعرف على نفسك . اقطع وعوداً صغيرة لأصدقائك في البداية و حاول أن تلتزم بها ، لتعتاد على صغيرها و توفي بكبيرها . حوّل تساؤلك : لماذا حدث لي هذا ؟ / آه لو حدث كذا ! ، إلى : كيف يمكنني أن أستفيدَ من الذي حدث ؟ حينها تماماً تذلل الصِعاب . *Be a light, not a judge. Be a model, not a critic . ؛ 2. ابدأ من النهاية : حاول أن تتخيل الحلم حقيقة بعد أن تخطط له بالكامل . تعالَ في خيالك بالمشوار من النهاية ، يحفّزك ذلك ، يدفعك ، و يريكَ الطريق الصحيح . و من هنا أيضاً يأخذُ تفكيرك الطريق الأعمق ، و تتمكن من التخطيط الشامل الناجح لكل شئ . عبر تخيل النتيجة و الإرادة ، ثم دراسة الأسباب و السبل ، و ما يُوصلك إلى هناك . ؛ 3. ضع الأهم أولاً : حاول أن تجعل قراراتك لإنهاء أمورك المهمة و المستعجلة / أمورك المهمة و الغير مستعجلة . أي فكر - استثمر وقت فراغك - نمي قدرتك على الاستنباط - تأمّل - ضع خطط بعيدة المدى و خطط قريبة المدى - . * إذا لم تخطط لحياتك ، تقع عادةً في خطط الآخرين . ؛ 4. النجاح للجميع ، هي عادة تحثّ على الاجتماع دون تنافسية قاسية ، ارغب في النجاح لك و للآخرين . انضج / جامل / احترم / أبدي إعجابك بوجهة نظر الطرف الآخر . ؛ 5. افهم أولاً . *Seek first to understand, then to be understood. استمع بفعالية ليستمع الآخرون لك . افهم أن من يُصل بالطرف الآخر إلى الفهم هو 10% من الكلام الذي يقال ، 30% من نبرة الصوت ، 60% من لغة الجسد . و عندما تعرضُ أنت أفكارك ، اعرضها بوضوح و زوّدها بالمثال ، و باللغة البصرية . ؛ 6. التناغُم . هو نتيجة أكثر منه عادة ، و يهدفُ إلى فهم الآخرين و الاندماج بينهم . و يُحقق بتحقيق العادات السبعة جميعها . ؛ 7. التجدد . بالبعد الفيزيائي : رياضياً . البعد العقلي : بالقراءة . بالبعد الروحي : العبادة و التأمل . البعد الاجتماعي و العاطفي : التعاون مع الآخرين . . كتاب متميّز جداً . =)

  17. 4 out of 5

    Greg

    Inspirational, developmental, and practical -- what a combination! The principles of behavior covered in this groundbreaking and long-respected book are of great worth to anyone seeking success in career, family, or any other aspect of their life. Covey discusses first the actions we must take (or habits we must develop) internally first - getting our heads and hearts right first. These include being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, and putting first things first. These constitute the Inspirational, developmental, and practical -- what a combination! The principles of behavior covered in this groundbreaking and long-respected book are of great worth to anyone seeking success in career, family, or any other aspect of their life. Covey discusses first the actions we must take (or habits we must develop) internally first - getting our heads and hearts right first. These include being proactive, beginning with the end in mind, and putting first things first. These constitute the "private victory." He then moves on to the "public victory," that is, the things that we can do that involve other people, and not just our own internal battles and development. These include, thinking win/win, seeking first to understand and then to be understood, and achieving synergy with others. Finally, he addresses the truth that we won't always be energetic and at our best in his discussion of personal renewal. Key to that is the idea of sharpening the saw...that is, we can only be at the top of our game for so long before we need to re-energize. Any serious athlete understands that principle. Outstanding book, especially when linked with his expanded discussion of Habit 3, putting first things first, in the book by the same title. Another excellent complement to this book is "Crucial Conversations."

  18. 5 out of 5

    Aya Hassan

    النسخه المترجمه كارثه من كوارث الزمان جعلتنى اكره الكتاب واكره المؤلف واكره القراءه بذاتها

  19. 4 out of 5

    Tareef

    من بين الكثير من كتب التطوير الشخصي التي قرأتها هذا العام، أعتقد بأن كتاب كوفي “العادات السبع” أفضلها على الإطلاق، وهو دروس فعّالة في عملية التغيير الشخصي. الكتاب مادة دسمة للغاية، كما يخلو تقريباً – وحسبما أرى – من سلبيات وعيوب كتب التطوير الشخصي .. يعرض المؤلف في كتابه الضخم – 500 صفحة – معالجة شاملة ومتكاملة وواضحة المبدأ من أجل حل المشاكل الشخصية والمهنية. هناك ثلاث أفكار أساسية, تشكل القاعدة التي ينطلق الكتاب منها نحو رسالته: الإنسان يملك حرية الإستجابة تجاه المنبهات طريقة النظر للمشكلة قد تكون من بين الكثير من كتب التطوير الشخصي التي قرأتها هذا العام، أعتقد بأن كتاب كوفي “العادات السبع” أفضلها على الإطلاق، وهو دروس فعّالة في عملية التغيير الشخصي. الكتاب مادة دسمة للغاية، كما يخلو تقريباً – وحسبما أرى – من سلبيات وعيوب كتب التطوير الشخصي .. يعرض المؤلف في كتابه الضخم – 500 صفحة – معالجة شاملة ومتكاملة وواضحة المبدأ من أجل حل المشاكل الشخصية والمهنية. هناك ثلاث أفكار أساسية, تشكل القاعدة التي ينطلق الكتاب منها نحو رسالته: الإنسان يملك حرية الإستجابة تجاه المنبهات طريقة النظر للمشكلة قد تكون هي المشكلة الحقيقية الرجوع للصفات الأخلاقية المثالية من خلال دمج هذه الأفكار الثلاثة, أصبحت الفكرة الأساسية التي ينطلق منها الكتاب هي: ( الرجوع للصفات الأخلاقية المثالية, عن طريق تغيير تصوراتنا الذهنية, باستخدام الحرية الممنوحة لنا, والموجودة في المسافة بين المنبه والاستجابة ).

  20. 4 out of 5

    Emma Sea

    I'm not able to rate this fairly as a reader coming to it in 2017. This was one of the first "personal development" books, and the other 4 thousand books I've read on the topic all borrow from it heavily. The thing is, they borrow from it, and then make it better in every way: more interesting, more relevant, better writing, more concise writing, better anecdotes and examples. This is a classic, but I don't recommend reading it.

  21. 4 out of 5

    Corinne

    I had to read this book for a professional development seminar. Then, I re-read it again, for personal reasons. It’s a book that is rich and dense, but worth the time and energy. The first notion that struck me was ‘the fundamental shift of perception’, which changes our perspective on things in matter of seconds. When I rose above myself and did this, all of a sudden I was not the same person. Quite a few things that I’ve been trying very hard to change for a long time, changed almost immediatel I had to read this book for a professional development seminar. Then, I re-read it again, for personal reasons. It’s a book that is rich and dense, but worth the time and energy. The first notion that struck me was ‘the fundamental shift of perception’, which changes our perspective on things in matter of seconds. When I rose above myself and did this, all of a sudden I was not the same person. Quite a few things that I’ve been trying very hard to change for a long time, changed almost immediately. The second was the statement ‘listen, not to respond, but to comprehend’. I realized I’ve been doing just the opposite, ever since I learnt to speak. All those other advices I’ve received on effective communication boiled down to nothing, because they all focus on how to make the other person listen! If there is one technique that has improved my relation with people, both personal and professional, it’s this: now I listen to understand, see things from the perspective of the other. The book is worth just for this. I love his notion of synergy in creating values, but this is also the notion that pains me the most, because this is the least I see around me. May be it’s the human nature not to seek synergy, but, in any case, I’ve applied this in my personal relations, and that has changed my life. His chapter on renewal convinced me to have a role and goal. It’s so basic, yet I had never taken the time to do it. It gave me a meaning to my life, for the first time.

  22. 5 out of 5

    Rowena

    This book was just alright. I was slightly disappointed as I have had this book recommended to me by countless people so I did expect better. I felt it could have been condensed to a quarter of its size easily.The book was also written in the 80s and I could easily tell (personally, I feel it's in need of a 21st Century update). I did give it 3-stars though because there were parts I found useful and interesting, especially the section about writing a mission statement for oneself. I guess this This book was just alright. I was slightly disappointed as I have had this book recommended to me by countless people so I did expect better. I felt it could have been condensed to a quarter of its size easily.The book was also written in the 80s and I could easily tell (personally, I feel it's in need of a 21st Century update). I did give it 3-stars though because there were parts I found useful and interesting, especially the section about writing a mission statement for oneself. I guess this book may be more suited to people in the business world.

  23. 3 out of 5

    فائق منيف

    اقتباسات من الكتاب: كوفي: كلما تمكنت من فهم الآخرين فهما عميقا زاد تقديرك لهم وزاد شعورك باحترامهم كوفي: كتابة اليوميات التي تضم أفكارنا وتجاربنا ورؤانا وتعاليمنا تعزز صفاء الذهن ودقته كوفي: لا توجد طريقة لتثقيف عقلك وتوسيع مداركك بانتظام أفضل من عادة قراءة الكتب القيّمة كوفي: الصور الصغيرة من العطف واللباقة مهمة للغاية جونسون: لا يمكن أن تكون هناك صداقة بدون ثقة، ولا ثقة بدون صدق إيمرسون: عندما تصرخ في أذني لا أسمع ما تقول كوفي: إن البداية الحقيقية للتأثير تحدث عندما يستشعر الآخرون تأثرك بهم كوفي: ا اقتباسات من الكتاب: كوفي: كلما تمكنت من فهم الآخرين فهما عميقا زاد تقديرك لهم وزاد شعورك باحترامهم كوفي: كتابة اليوميات التي تضم أفكارنا وتجاربنا ورؤانا وتعاليمنا تعزز صفاء الذهن ودقته كوفي: لا توجد طريقة لتثقيف عقلك وتوسيع مداركك بانتظام أفضل من عادة قراءة الكتب القيّمة كوفي: الصور الصغيرة من العطف واللباقة مهمة للغاية جونسون: لا يمكن أن تكون هناك صداقة بدون ثقة، ولا ثقة بدون صدق إيمرسون: عندما تصرخ في أذني لا أسمع ما تقول كوفي: إن البداية الحقيقية للتأثير تحدث عندما يستشعر الآخرون تأثرك بهم كوفي: الأمل يعني أن تكتشف أنك تمثل القوة الإبداعية في حياتك كوفي: أهم إنجازاتنا تتطلب مهارات للتعاون والعمل الجماعي تفوق إمكانياتنا الحالية بكثير كوفي: لا بد ألا نكتفي بالتعليم النظامي بل علينا تعليم أنفسنا باستمرار وإعادة اكتشافها كوفي: قاعدة النجاح الحقيقية هي القدرة على الاستمرار والنمو كوفي: الذين يعتادون كبت مشاعرهم بدلا من تحويلها إلى معان أكبر يكتشفون تأثير ذلك على تقديرهم لذاتهم وجودة علاقاتهم بالآخرين

  24. 5 out of 5

    Ann

    This is my husband's favorite book. Obviously he is more effective than I am. Dividing my life into squares, writing in those squares the things I have to do, then doing the "most important" may make me effective, but is that my best life? Choosing to do the things that I want to do rather than the things I need to do, adds interest to my existence. If I take the scenic route, and run out of gas doing it, I find adventure, and often meet AAA wrecker drivers who could write books on their experie This is my husband's favorite book. Obviously he is more effective than I am. Dividing my life into squares, writing in those squares the things I have to do, then doing the "most important" may make me effective, but is that my best life? Choosing to do the things that I want to do rather than the things I need to do, adds interest to my existence. If I take the scenic route, and run out of gas doing it, I find adventure, and often meet AAA wrecker drivers who could write books on their experiences. By forgetting birthdays and anniversaries, I find out who really loves me for myself. By forgetting about the time and shimming the door knob that has been bothering me for weeks, and then remembering that it is time to pick up my child from school, he learns independence and I can cross the darn rattling doorknob off my to do list. It's been driving me nuts. I am tempted to write the 7 habits of highly haphazard people. 1. Be creative with your to-do list. Add color and doodles. If you can read it, you are not trying hard enough. Lose it. 2. Buy something you will never use, but if you can use it in a unique way (for which it was not intended) do that. (Colanders make great Halloween alien helmets. Add pipe cleaners for antennae.) 3. Set some clocks in your home ahead by a few minutes and some behind for a few minutes. You will learn a great deal about yourself and others. 4. Get a cat. Dogs make you feel important. Cats teach you humility. 5. Relish the wonder of soap bubbles blown in the sun. 6. Take the road that you've always been curious about. See where it goes. Learn how to turn around quickly in tight places. 7. Really listen to a small child as often as possible. I am enjoying writing this, especially since I have company coming in a few moments and scads of things to do before they get here.

  25. 3 out of 5

    Joe

    I bought The Seven Habits at a yard sale for $1 with little knowledge of its contents. Years later, when my life dipped to a low ebb of meaning and motivation, I picked it off the shelf in hopes of finding a spark. Inside I found wisdom, compassion, a direct approach and a love of humanity. The result wasn't immediately transformative. The methods and techniques Covey espouses didn't fall into place and turn me into a whirlwind of positive productivity. Reading The Seven Habits was just one of m I bought The Seven Habits at a yard sale for $1 with little knowledge of its contents. Years later, when my life dipped to a low ebb of meaning and motivation, I picked it off the shelf in hopes of finding a spark. Inside I found wisdom, compassion, a direct approach and a love of humanity. The result wasn't immediately transformative. The methods and techniques Covey espouses didn't fall into place and turn me into a whirlwind of positive productivity. Reading The Seven Habits was just one of many moderate steps on a journey that, years on, still stretches endlessly into the horizon. But the part that had the greatest effect on me, looking back, is the notion of the Personal Mission Statement; a written representation of who you are and who you want to be. It's a credo or philosophy, written to reflect your values and edited over time to refine the edges of your philosophy. It demonstrates the power of organizing what you feel and writing it down or speaking it out loud. And with that I share my Personal Mission Statement; consulted often, edited occasionally, some points followed more consistently than others. -When something seems wrong about how I pattern my life, I will analyze that pattern and change if it makes sense. -I matter to others and they matter to me. -I will look before I leap, but sometimes I will leap. -I will write down my ideas. -When I lose myself in reverie, I will turn to my to-do list rather than internet engagement. -I will continue to write even if my content is receiving diminishing attention. -I will carve out time each week to be around other people. -I will favor truth over cleverness in my articulation. -I will maintain my health through strong nutrition and consistent activity. I will leave room for flights of fancy. -I will leave the house with the intention of being early. -I will act when I know there is something to do. -I will write events on the calendar as they come up. -I will minimize my multitasking. -Not everything I say has to sound clever; I will make an effort to giving encouragement and obeying social graces. -I shall ask for help and I shall offer it. -When I wake up I will engage my legs or mind promptly. -The names of others matter and I will learn them. -When life gets stressful, I will harness that stress. -I will speak well of people behind their backs. -There are stories everywhere and I shall find them. -I will respond to people online promptly; say within an hour or when I know what to say. -I will go to bed when I feel tired. -Not every big step will take me far. -My Checklists serve me, not the other way around.

  26. 4 out of 5

    Jenny (Reading Envy)

    This book changed how I worked and how I set goals. It isn't the feel-good self-help book it appears. Read again before going back to work in January 2014. I think it's fitting that the first time I read this, I was in grad school and planning for the future, and that I would read it again as I leave behind the career I was planning for back then. Well, somewhat. I'm letting music librarianship go and focusing on being an assistant director in the library, and also to figuring out what the next This book changed how I worked and how I set goals. It isn't the feel-good self-help book it appears. Read again before going back to work in January 2014. I think it's fitting that the first time I read this, I was in grad school and planning for the future, and that I would read it again as I leave behind the career I was planning for back then. Well, somewhat. I'm letting music librarianship go and focusing on being an assistant director in the library, and also to figuring out what the next move will be in a few years. A couple of things I'm mulling over after the second read: -Moving beyond to-do lists, which can be a false sense of achievement -Not letting work be the only place where goals are set -Valuing difference -Becoming a person who helps others achieve their goals -Quadrant II (again)

  27. 5 out of 5

    ثامر الحمدان

    "تتكون شخصيتنا في الأساس من عاداتنا , تزرع فكرة تحصد عملاً , وتزرع عملاً تحصد عادة , وتزرع عادة تحصد شخصية , وتزرع شخصية تحصد مصيراً " ** واضح أن الكاتب بذل جهداً بحثياً كبيراً , لكن برأيي سببت كثرة المعلومات الغير مهمة وتفاصيل التفاصيل والتكرار بأن تكون النتيجة ( حشو كلام مع قليل من الفائدة) , فهو يذكر مبادئ العادة والمشاعر ومسبباتها أكثر من أن يذكر طرق لتعزيز عادة حميدة أو مكافحة عادة سيئة , فمثلا مالذي يهمني أنا كقارئ أن أعرف عند حديثي مع الغير أن مايعمل الأن من المخ هو الفص الأيمن أو الأيسر ! "تتكون شخصيتنا في الأساس من عاداتنا , تزرع فكرة تحصد عملاً , وتزرع عملاً تحصد عادة , وتزرع عادة تحصد شخصية , وتزرع شخصية تحصد مصيراً " ** واضح أن الكاتب بذل جهداً بحثياً كبيراً , لكن برأيي سببت كثرة المعلومات الغير مهمة وتفاصيل التفاصيل والتكرار بأن تكون النتيجة ( حشو كلام مع قليل من الفائدة) , فهو يذكر مبادئ العادة والمشاعر ومسبباتها أكثر من أن يذكر طرق لتعزيز عادة حميدة أو مكافحة عادة سيئة , فمثلا مالذي يهمني أنا كقارئ أن أعرف عند حديثي مع الغير أن مايعمل الأن من المخ هو الفص الأيمن أو الأيسر !! ,لكن ربما يكون سبب ضعف وصول أفكار الكتاب الترجمة الحرفية السيئة , فالمواضيع متداخلة بشكل متعب للغاية ** أعجبتني بعض اقتباسات الكاتب لأنها تلخص أحياناً صفحات كثيرة.

  28. 5 out of 5

    Ah Med

    كتاب رأئع رائع رائع كل صفحة منه تحمل بين طياتها معلومات قيمة ومفيدة! الكتاب عبارة عن تنمية بشرية وسيرة ذاتية وادارة اعمال وادارة الذات والكثير ! افضل مافى الكتاب انه ليس كغيره من الكتب التنموية التى قرأتها.. الكتب الاخرى تحدث تغييرا ظاهريا من حيث طريقة معاملاتك مع الاشخاص التى قد ينتابها بعض من النفاق ! لكن هذا الكتاب يحدث تغييرا جذريا بداخلك ويكون منبع التغيير داخلياوليس ظاهريا فقط! يساعد على تطوير الشخصية بكامل إرادتك اسلوب العرض قد يصيب البعض بالملل .. لكن وفرة المعلومات تطغى على الملل #ينصح به

  29. 4 out of 5

    الشناوي محمد جبر

    كتاب عادي لا أعرف سر الضجة المثارة حوله.

  30. 4 out of 5

    Bushra Omar

    في كتابة المراجعات لكتب التنمية البشرية، أحب أن ابدأ بآخر ما أضافه الكاتب!، و السبب في ذلك كثرة الحديث عن "لحظية" النتائج بعد قراءة الكتب من هذا النوع، و الحقيقة أن هذا الأمر لا يسيء للتنمية فقط، بل يشمل حتى الملتقي الذي وضع نفسه خارج دائرة الاستفادة والتغيير، و في هذا الحديث الكثير من الحق، كما فيه عدم الفهم يختم ستيفن كوفي كتابه بهذا المقطع : [ أنا شخصيًا أصارع الكثير مما رويته لكم خلال هذا الكتاب، ولكنه صراع مثمر و ذو قيمة.. و هو يعطي معنى لحياتي و يمكنني من الحب وتقديم الخدمات وتكرار المحاولة في كتابة المراجعات لكتب التنمية البشرية، أحب أن ابدأ بآخر ما أضافه الكاتب!، و السبب في ذلك كثرة الحديث عن "لحظية" النتائج بعد قراءة الكتب من هذا النوع، و الحقيقة أن هذا الأمر لا يسيء للتنمية فقط، بل يشمل حتى الملتقي الذي وضع نفسه خارج دائرة الاستفادة والتغيير، و في هذا الحديث الكثير من الحق، كما فيه عدم الفهم يختم ستيفن كوفي كتابه بهذا المقطع : [ أنا شخصيًا أصارع الكثير مما رويته لكم خلال هذا الكتاب، ولكنه صراع مثمر و ذو قيمة.. و هو يعطي معنى لحياتي و يمكنني من الحب وتقديم الخدمات وتكرار المحاولة. و مرة أخرى عبر إليوت عن اكتشافي هذا بعبارات جميلة "لا بد ألا نتوقف عن الاكتشاف.. ونهاية كل اكتشاف ستكون عودة لنقطة البداية لنتعرف إلى المكان من جديد" .. ] إذاً هذا ما يمس عملية الاكتشاف والتغيير في الغالب، كلما وصلنا لمرحلة و إن كانت في داخل لاوعينا، فإننا قد نعود من جديد نبحث عن اكتشاف مذهل آخر، وعمق أنضج! .. و قد أدى تشابه حديث التنمية البشرية و سطحيتها إلى الزعم بعدم فائدتها في العموم، قد يقنعنا الحال بهذا، لكنني قرأت لروّاد هذا المجال من يستطيع أن يحدث أعمق التأثير بنسبة 30% عن طريق الوعي والترتيب، و تبقى النسبة المتبقية في إرادة الانسان واستعداده، وتوفر_ أو صناعة_ الظروف المناسبة له.. و هنا أزعم أن ستيفن كوفي فعل هذا بي من خلال كتابه العميق و الذي ركّز فيه مفهوم التصور الذهني، والتغيير من الداخل إلى الخارج، و ضرورة التأكد من ذات الطريق و ليس الاكتفاء بالخريطة المُحسنة و " السلوكيات" الظاهرة الكتاب يتضمن أربعة أجزاء: 1- التصورات الذهنية و المبادئ تحدث فيه عن مفهوم " من الداخل إلى الخارج"، وعن الفرق بين السمات الاخلاقية: تقنيات العلاقة العامة، و بين الاخلاق الشخصية: التوجه العقلي الايجابي.. ثم تحدث عن " قوة التصور الذهني" إذ هو الطريقة التي نرى بها العالم و نفهمه و نفسره، وهذا التصور هو الذي يشكل في النهاية سلوكياتنا و توجهاتنا في الحياة، و يفيد في التفريق بين التغيير السطحي الذي اعتدنا عليه، و أسرفنا الوقت في محاولات و إن كانت جادة في تغيير سلوكياتنا و دفعها إلى الجانب الفعال والإيجابي، ولكن دون جدوى!! ، أما التصور الذهني العميق قد يأخذ وقتًا أطول لكنه حل جذري لتغيرات كبيرة و مستقبلية __ 2- النصر الشخصي تحت هذا العنوان تندرج العادات الثلاثة الأولى العادة الأولى: كُن مبادرًا و المبادرة هنا تعني : أننا كبشر مسئولون عن حياتنا و أن سلوكنا نتاج قراراتنا و ليس ظروفنا، فنحن نستطيع أن نضع المشاعر في مرتبة أدنى من القيم .. و يقصد أننا بين المثير والاستجابة قادرون على اختيار نوع ما يصدر عنّا، بذلك يكون وجود انسان مبادر قادر على التعايش مع ما يمر به، يحوله من كونه انسان انفعالي إلى آخر فعّال العادة الثانية: ابدأ والغاية في ذهنك هذه العادة قائمة على أساس القيادة الشخصية " ماهي الأشياء التي أود تحقيقها؟"، و هي بذلك تقوم على معرفة مانريد و نسعى إليه، أي تصورنا الذهني للنهاية و الهدف الذي نصبو إليه.. وخير مثال تكلم عنه ستفين تحت هذا الموضوع هو " رسالة الحياة الشخصية" [ تركز على ماتريد أن تكون (الشخصية) و ماتريد أن تفعل ( الاسهامات و الانجازات) و على القيم أو المبادئ التي يقوم على أساسها ماتريد و ماتفعل ] .. و هذه الرسالة تحتم عليّنا وضع شيء ما في المركز تتمحور حوله حياتنا و تأثيرنا ، وعلى المركز أن يمدنا بأربعة عوامل مهمة وهي: الأمن، القوة ، الحكمة، الارشاد العادة الثالثة: ابدأ بالأهم قبل المهم " " ليس التحدي في إدارة الوقت بل في إدارة أنفسنا " هنا يتحدث عن إدارة المهام و تنظيمها.. و بذكر مصفوفة إدارة الوقت، لدينا أربع مربعات (مربع 1: يتضمن المهام المهمة العاجلة، مربع 2: مهمة غير عاجله، مربع 3: غير مهمة عاجلة، مربع 4: غير مهمة و غير عاجلة) و نحن دائمًا نتفاعل مع الامور العاجلة و ننسى مربع 2 ( المهمة غير العاجلة) المهام في هذه الخانة ستكون مهمة لنا على المدى الطويل، و كونها غير عاجله أمر يتطلب منّا المبادرة الالتزام!! .. و بالحديث عن كيفية تعامل الناس مع هذه المصفوفة تتضح لنا جودة إدارتنا لأنفسنا بشكل كبير __ 3- النصر العام و هنا نجد العادات الرابعة والخامسة والسادسة، أساسها الاعتماد بالتبادل العادة الرابعة: تفكير المكسب/المكسب هناك ستة تصورات للتفاعل الانساني: المكسب/الخسارة، الخسارة/ المكسب، الخسارة/الخسارة، المكسب/المكسب، المكسب، المكسب/المكسب أو لا اتفقاق.. يوضح ستيفن كوفي كل تصور وما النتائج المترتبة عليها، و يرى أن الأكثر فعالية هو تصور: المكسب/المكسب أو لا اتفاق، فإذا لم نستطع تحقيق مكسب لكليّنا فالأجدر ألا نتفق على شيء، لأننا إذ ندفع بإحدنا إلى الخسارة نؤثر على العائد المستقبلي في علاقتنا، سواء كان هذا في مجال العمل أو العلاقات وحتى الأسر العادة الخامسة: اسع من أجل الفهم أولاً ثم اسع من أجل أن يفهمك الآخرون و الحديث هنا عن مبادئ تواصل التقمص العاطفي، فالانسان الفعّال يسعى لفهم ما يقوله الآخرون و يستعين بمهارات الاستماع للتوصل لهذا الفهم، قبل أن يرجو منهم فهمه، لأن محاولاتنا لتوصل إلى نظرتهم الخاصة و الوعي بها، يزيد من قدرتنا في قول مانريده و اختيار الطريقة المناسبة مع التصورات الذهنية المختلفة العادة السادسة: التكاتف تأتي هذه العادة تابعة للعادتين السابقة، فإذا تحققتا صارت المحصلة هي التكاتف و التعاون على أداء ما يجب بأكمل وجه، و سط جو رضا من الجميع و يعني التكاتف أن: الكل أعظم من مجموع الأجزاء، وهو أهم محفز و أهم عامل معزز للقوة __ 4- التجديد و يكون في العادة السابعة: اشحذ المنشار بتجديد الأبعاد الأربعة لطبيعة الانسان : البعد البدني- الروحي- الاجتماعي/العاطفي- العقلي __ أما عن رأيي في الكتاب ككل: أجده من أهم الكتب التي قرأتها، وأحمد الله على ذلك، فقد ساعدني ما قرأته في إدارة الكثير من الأمور وفهمها!، ربما يعيب عليه التطويل، صفحات الكتاب تتعدى الأربعمائة فيجد البعض صعوبة في إكماله أو ملل من كثرة القصص المذكورة والتوضيحات، بالرغم أنها تساعد كثيرًا في إيصال مادة الكتاب إلى واقعنا بشكل جيد يستحق القراءة، ولو على المدى الطويل، المهم أن يصل إلى أذهاننا كما يجب و الحمدلله على إتمامه 

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